How to convince yourself that the world owes you something.

This one goes out to the creatives. x

There are two types of people in the world. Where the line falls between these two types is a whole other story. Some people think that being negative is in fact only being realistic, and I’m one of those people.

The last month or so has put a lot of things in perspective for me. I would usually just keep things to myself and deal with it in my own way, but I’ve recently taken to the advice of friends, because I in all honesty felt that lost.

Lets put things into perspective here. Say that you have a passion – one that you care so deeply about that its integrated in every single thing that you do, even though you don’t really know it. Something that if  stopped, you’d notice an aching gap in your life – it’s kinda like your glue. Now imagine that you became so overwhelmed with everything that you felt like you could no longer continue that passion. Your thoughts spiraled into over reactions. Naturally, you start over thinking, analysing, and comparing yourself to everyone. And you’re constantly battling waves between giving it all up in a heartbeat, knowing you’re being absolutely ridiculous, but thinking that you’re failing anyway so why bother competing.

This is for the creative ones – the ones who would risk everything to give it all up in a heartbeat, but know they’re being stupid. Who over think and act completely out of character, but when it’s good its so good.

 

Some of the advice that you will get is that all you need to do is work hard, and it will pay off. Regardless, your hard work and endless dedication will reward you with something incredible, something bigger than you ever imagined.

And I really don’t know how I feel about that advice.

Whatever happened to planning ahead, to being prepared and making sure you’re set for the future? I like to know that I’m not going to get myself in any trouble, and that I’ve got the resources to look after myself if something bad was to happen.  But there are people who will tell you to let go of any security you have, and that it won’t happen if you don’t give it everything, without the consequences.

We all want our friends to tell us that we can do what we love, and that we can make it. But don’t be fooled into thinking the world will owe you something. You can’t just wake up one day and throw every sense of security away to believe that the world will place a feature pillow underneath you when life doesn’t stop.

If I read that myself, or if a friend told me that to my face, I’d find myself being pissed off. But why? Why would something that I fully understand irritate me so much? And I think its the pure reason that you’re not there yet. And its fine to not be there, as long as you’re half way into the adventure.

Some people will call me negative for thinking that way, but I see it as being sensible. I’m not saying that hard work wont get you places you want to go, but there are so many things that we don’t know about because we never asked.

Update 2/2/
Someone commented on my social post telling me that thinking this way I am limiting myself. This helped me articulate what I’m trying to say in my blog post a little more.

Don’t tell me that I’m not passionate enough, that I’m not willing to work, and I don’t want it that bad because I’m not willing to fall flat on my face and risk losing everything. Don’t tell me that I’m limiting myself because I’ve got a house, and bills to pay and I need ways of supporting that. Of course it’s fear. But why is that such a bad thing to be afraid of? You can’t compare passion and security when you can have a rational mind to be aware of both.

So heres some of my advice.

It’s not okay to convince people that the world owes them something.

You’re creative because you love to do it, not because you feel like you’re owed something in return.
Believe that you’re good enough to get there, without having to make important sacrifices.
Work harder every day, but work to the point of exhaustion after an 8 hour shift.

These are my thoughts, I’d love to hear yours. x

 

(I’m really bad at explaining things. maybe this is a rant, maybe i’ll discuss this further. Leave a comment if you’d like to debate.) x

 

 

Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *